Real Men, What A Man Is Not, Point #1
I was having a conversation one day when I offhandedly made a comment about not believing that men exist (I think they have gone the way of dinosaurs and dodo birds is close to my exact comment) when I was asked a thought-provoking question.
What is a man? For there must be a definition of what one is, to know they do not exist.
An interesting piece of logic, definitely worth considering, especially when brought to my attention by a member of the opposite sex. I honestly could not answer, and that is a rare occurrence! This question has since been plaguing my thoughts, what is a man? What does one have to do to become a man? How do men act, feel, think?
It is like asking someone what an enjoyable experience is, not everyone will agree to one answer. Some people may find a nice foot massage after a long day at work to be an enjoyable event, yet the thought of someone touching my feet gives me the heebie-jeebies. YUCK!
Anyway, back to men, after pouring over this conundrum for many an hour I have come to this conclusion: having not ever met a man, I do not know what one is. But I feel I can give convincing examples of what a man is not, therefore, this will be definition by process of elimination.
Let me digress for a moment and give rationalization to my logic, so as not to confuse anyone. Yes, I am aware there are humans walking around in the world that have male-type anatomy parts, whom we refer to as men. This is not exactly what I'm talking about. I am discussing more the relationship/commitment/love aspect of the human condition, as opposed to the anatomical one. The counterpart of a man is, of course, Peter Pan (you know, the 'I don't wanna grow up' syndrome).
That being said, let us return to the topic at hand.
Definition of a man: What a man is not
Point #1: Selflessness
A man is not self-centered. As a result, a man would care about others as much as he cares about himself. He would know how to be selfless, and when a situation called for empathy and support, he would gladly step up and help those he cares for. A man also knows that although his time is valuable, spending time with the people he cares for is very important and would go out of his way to make special time for the people in his life. He would give everything he had to prevent hurting someone he cared for, even if it meant sacrificing something he wanted, because the well being of others is more important than his personal desires.
Tomorrow Point #2: False Pretense
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