Do you ever just smile? Because its easier to fake happiness then deal with being upset. Easier to be passive, and bypass aggressive?
When someone casually asks, How are you doing?
It is not socially acceptable to respond, Well, my goldfish just died, I stubbed my toe last night and it still hurts, and I have a migraine coming on from the plethora of useless questions Im asked throughout the day.
What would people think of you if you countered in this manner – even if it is the truth? No, instead you are required by the keepers of the social norm to reply, Fine, and you? So whomever asked can feign fine-nes as well.
So then, why do we feel obligated to ask people how they are? You bump into someone whom you havent seen in a while, and the first words out of your mouth are, How are you? They jump out there into the void before you have time to think about what you are saying. And then you sit there annoyed, because this person, this inconsiderate person, actually has the nerve to take your precious time and answer the question youve nonchalantly asked them.
So the question now is, why ask, if you dont really want to know?
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