The Wonderful World of Dating: Yellow Flags
We have all heard of the relationship red flag. You know, the behaviors we all want to overlook when we’re deeply in like with someone – and when we look back on this destined-to-doom relationship we say to ourselves, “If only I had known…” We’ve all been there, and many of us will be there again. The red flag has become part of our relationship vocabulary – but I feel it has dominated for too long.
If there is a red flag, then there must be a green flag as well. Right? The things that happen when you’re in the just-getting-to-know-you stages that feel right on. The things that make women wonder how he’ll get along with her family, and men wonder what she’ll look like it hot pink Victoria Secret. But even though we have never given the green flag a name until now, we have all been aware of its existence – hey, it’s usually the reason we enjoy the first, second and third kiss. It doesn’t need a ton of explanation.
I want to concentrate today on the flag that I believe has been neglected for too long, the flag that is causing turmoil in relationships all over the globe – the yellow flag.
What is the yellow flag, you may ask yourself? This is simple, whereas red flags are usually deal breakers – as in don’t call me, I’ll call you, and I just dropped my phone off a 240 foot cliff. Yellow flags are proceed with caution warnings - a sign of the need to compromise in some area of the relationship or another, and to ask yourself if you can live with that compromise. Some examples may be; he hates sushi and it’s your favorite food, you like romantic comedies and he’s a documentary fanatic, he’s a morning person and you are a creature of the night. These are things that can be worked out, but will take some work on the part of both parties.
I was explaining this theory to a brilliant male friend of mine tonight, and he asked me how many yellow flags make a red flag. A very logical question – so I did some research. After hours upon hours of mathematical equations with odd signs and symbols that reminded me of my high school days I have come up with a lay me… I mean laymen explanation: four yellow flags equals one red flag, and two red flags is a deal breaker.
My problem is this: are my yellow flags legit, or are they imagined? Am I concerned about entering into a healthy relationship, or am I scared of opening up to someone else? Am I just making all this up?
I guess only time will tell…
The Wonderful World of Dating: a semi-caustic look at dating in today’s world, given from the heart of a chronically single girl, appears right here at iconoclastic
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn’t supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it’s harder every time. You’ll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You’ll fight with your best friend. You’ll blame a new love for things an old one did. You’ll cry because time is passing too fast, and you’ll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you’ve never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you’ll never get back.
Don’t be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin!
~ unknown
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I read and remember and learn from your writings. It helps to understand the new generation is not so different than mine. Keep up your blog. It helps you and me.
Posted by: 66 year old youngster A.I.H2O | November 20, 2007 09:24 AM