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Last Monday there was no His & Hers published because we honored a day of silence in memory of the shooting at Virginia Tech. Jordan and I had a hard time deciding whether or not to participate in this day of silence, because it seems that activism and discussion are the best ways prevent this from happening again, and to help us all heal from this horrible event. And yet we did not want to disrespect the memory of the people who were killed. In the end, we decided to observe the day of silence, but we also wanted the opportunity to share with you what we thought about this tragedy, so we are writing about it this week for His & Hers, in Loving Memory of those at Virginia Tech.
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A married couple was in a car when the wife turned to her husband and asked, “Would you like to stop for a coffee?”
“No, thanks,” he answered truthfully. So they didn’t stop.
The result? The wife, who had indeed wanted to stop, became annoyed because she felt her preference had not been considered. The husband, seeing his wife was angry, became frustrated. Why didn’t she just say what she wanted?
Unfortunately, he failed to see that his wife was asking the question not to get an instant decision, but to begin a negotiation. And the woman didn’t realize that when her husband said no, he was just expressing his preference, not making a ruling. When a man and women interpret the same interchange in such conflicting ways, it’s no wonder they can find themselves leveling angry charges of selfishness and obstinacy at each other.
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Aside from having a hot car and good looks, there are many things a man can do to make a woman flip for him. Many men feel as though they need to be puppy dogs to make woman happy – this is not the case. It is possible for you to maintain your identity and your masculinity, but still make your girl feel on top of the world. If you’ve just met a woman or are new to a relationship that you’d like to pursue, these tips will have her spinning and falling right into your arms.
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This is the intro to an article written for Men’s Health entitled What Makes Men Fall in Love? By David Zinczenko (Posted on Thursday March 15, 2007)
Judging from the kind of mail we get at Men’s Health from men seeking relationship advice, I can tell you this definitively about men: When a man falls for a woman, he falls hard. Men love to be in love. While men often get stereotyped as single-minded sex-seekers, the truth is that a man’s stomach churns like a slushy machine when he’s in those initial stages of the perfect relationship.
When you consider that half of men say that they’re currently not with their soul mates, that means a heck of a lot of slushy machines are waiting to be turned on. What are they waiting for? What makes a man fall in love? After you rule out the obvious intangible laws of chemistry, attraction, and being in the right place at the right time tat kick-start many a relationship, I think the question really becomes this: What makes a man fall – and stay – in love? About 60 percent of men deem friendship the most important thing in a relationship (sex comes in at a skimpy 8 percent, according to a national Harris Interactive poll), but let’s delve a little deeper. What exactly dose that mean, and what kind of woman dose a man really want? With full acknowledgement that men’s tastes in women are as unpredictable as the plotline of “24,” these are some of things that many men value in “the one.”
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What is a friend? The word is defined as, “one attached to another by affection or esteem.” But to each of us the characteristics and desires of a friend could vary greatly. Depending on our personal needs and interests, we may find different people who fulfill different wants we have. Female relationships are often thought to be based on shared feelings and confidences. Male friendships are solidified in shared interests. So what do we gain from friendship with a member of the opposite sex? Or are they even different?
What are little boys made of, made of?
What are little boys made of?
Frogs and snails, and puppy dogs’ tails.
That’s what little boys are made of
What are little girls made of, made of?
What are little girls made of?
Sugar and spice, and all things nice.
That’s what little girls are made of.
~ English Nursery Rhyme
This famous nursery rhyme is many hundreds of years old. It testifies to a basic awareness that little boys have different parameters of behavior than little girls. Everyone knows how girls are different from boys… kind of. We have an idea of what boys and girls should be: blue and pink, outdoor and indoor, energetic and quiet. And yet, there are some girls who love playing football in the yard all day, and there are some boys who would rather bake cookies in the kitchen.
What did he say? What did she say?
Each of us is unique. We have diverse viewpoints, and we approach life from distinguishing points of view. Yet, it seems the biggest disparity in perspective you can get is between how men see the world, and how women view it. It seems to taste, feel, smell and even sound different. There are a plethora of books out there attempting to explain this communication conundrum, Dr. Phil spends a ginormous amount of time trying to clarify for the masses, we even have sitcoms based on the hilarity that is a man and a woman trying to converse.
So why not try it out ourselves?
The point of this column? To decipher psychological, social and cultural issues, from the viewpoints of a man and a woman; to possibly further understanding between the virtual gender gap; and to have a bit of fun picking apart a fraction of pop-culture.