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May 19, 2008

Thoughts of the Day

One of my biggest fears in life is “we”. I like being “I”. Simplistic, salubrious, untainted, fresh, clear “I”. No mess, no fuss, no drama, no we need to talk or ‘me-me-me’ – just “I”.

“We” is too messy…. And yet “I” have such a dirty mind…

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I want a tee-shirt that reads, “Please remove your label from my relationship.”

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“So THAT’S your ex-boyfriend?”
“No”
“Then which one is he?”
“The one standing over there talking with his hands and looking important.”
“Yeah, that’s who I was talking about.”
“But he’s not my ex-boyfriend…”
“Huh!?!”
“I don’t do ‘boyfriend’ or ‘dating’ or any of that social b.s. that people use to squeeze relationships into a box that ends up getting tossed down the stairs and kicked a couple of times anyways.”
“You’d rather be tossed down the stairs and kicked without the box?”
“Hell yeah! It gives me the chance to fight back.”
“So how would you describe him?”
“That’s the guy I was sleeping with until I stopped.”
“That’s romantic.”
“Yeah, I know.”

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May 05, 2008

Sabbatical... but I'm back

I have taken a bit of a sabbatical from the blogging world. I needed to take a break, get caught up on life, date a couple of boys to give me something more to write about, and gain some perspective. Now that I have accomplished those goals, I am ready to share with you my unique perspective on the dating world again.

Thanks to all who have kept in contact via e-mail, pushing me to keep on keeping on, it was nice to know I was missed. I am also looking for someone to write He Said, She Said with me again – so if you know anyone who is interested please let me know.

So, without further excuse, I will post something brilliant (or at least entertaining) in the next day or two, and I will be around two or three times a week to add some humor to your life.

Luv y’all!

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December 11, 2007

Broken Record


Life is like a broken record at times. We listen to the same notes play over and over and over, and no matter how annoying the song can be, or how badly we want to change the tune, we never get up and switch the record.
Is it laziness, or is it that sometimes listening to the familiar old scratch is more comforting than the idea of learning new notes? Can I brave a new melody and take the chance of being happy, or am I happy being miserable?


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Quotable Thoughts: a look at the words of wisdom from other’s, with a twist of personal commentary, appears right here at

We were here; we are human beings; this is how we lived. Let it be known, the earth passed before us. Our details are important. Otherwise, if they are not, we can drop a bomb and it doesn’t matter.

Have a great blog idea, or just want to chat with me about something I’ve said? Feel free to e-mail me: meagandixon@yahoo.com


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November 20, 2007

My Life Story in 15 Words or Less

A couple of years ago I was at a writing conference, and they were going over the importance of not rambling on when telling a story (kind of like I'm doing now). Anywho, their challenge to us was to write our life stories in 15 words or less.

Yes you read me right, 15 words or less. But don't worry, I have a large vocabulary, and am able to find concise words that describe my life perfectly - I even did it in a mere eleven words. That's right eleven.

So without further ado...

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November 01, 2007

ICE - In Case of Emergency

This was forwarded to me, and I think it's a wonderful idea!!! Please feel free to pass this along to all your friends and family!

Most of us carry our mobile phones with names & numbers stored in its memory but nobody, other than ourselves, knows which of these numbers belong to our closest family or friends.

If we were to be involved in an accident or were taken ill, the people attending us would have our mobile phone but wouldn't know who to call. Yes, there are hundreds of numbers stored but which one is the contact person in case of an emergency? Hence this "ICE" (In Case of Emergency) Campaign

The concept of "ICE" is catching on quickly. It is a method of contact during emergency situations. As cell phones are carried by the majority of the population, all you need to do is store the number of a contact person or persons who should be contacted during emergency under the name "ICE" ( In Case Of Emergency).

The idea was thought up by a paramedic who found that when he went to the scenes of accidents, there were always mobile phones with patients, but they didn't know which number to call. He therefore thought that it would be a good idea if there was a nationally recognized name for this purpose. In an emergency situation, Emergency Service personnel and hospital Staff would be able to quickly contact the right person by simply dialing the number you have stored as "ICE."

For more than one contact name simply enter ICE1, ICE2 and ICE3 etc. A great idea that will make a difference!

Let's spread the concept of ICE by storing an ICE number in our Mobile phones today!

Please forward this. It won't take too many "forwards" before everybody will know about this. It really could save your life, or put a loved one's mind at rest.

ICE will speak for you, if you're not able to.

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October 15, 2007

The Singing Revolution

I received an e-mail this morning, and thought it was worth sharing:

I just heard about this amazing new film titled "The Singing Revolution." This documentary tells the extraordinary story of the non-violent path Estonia took to free itself from Soviet occupation. The movie will soon be playing in select theaters.

The producers have a special opportunity: If there is enough demand, they will screen the movie in our area. Let's bring "The Singing Revolution" to a theater in Chico , simply sign up on their website: http://www.singingrevolution.com. Those areas that have at least 1500 requests will get a screening.

Most people don't think about singing when they think of revolutions. However, in Estonia , song was the weapon of choice. Between 1986 and 1991, hundreds of thousands of Estonian people gathered to sing forbidden patriotic songs and rally for independence, risking their lives to proclaim their desire for a free Estonia .

"The young people, without any political party, and without any politicians, just came together - not only tens of thousands but hundreds of thousands - to gather and to sing and to give this nation a new spirit. This was the idea of the Singing Revolution." - Mart Laar, Singing Revolution leader and first post-Soviet Estonian prime minister.

All you need to do is click the link www.singingrevolution.com . At the top of the page on the website you will see a statement that says "sign up to have a showing near you". Put in 95926 and your email address. You will receive an instant email to confirm your sign up. In order to complete your signup, you must reply to the email confirmaton.

Please forward this to everyone you know and have them put in 95926 so we can bring it to Chico .

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September 20, 2007

Mental Feng Shui


In ancient times, as well as today, Feng shui has been known as the Laws of Heaven and Earth. Today Feng Shui teaches the ancient Chinese practice of placement and arrangement of space to achieve harmony with the environment.

What better place to organize space and find a placement to achieve harmony than your own mind? Here are 21 things that can help you on your way to a better mindset.


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September 16, 2007

Breakfast Wisdom

This morning my paper towl said to me, "I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails, to always reach my destination."

Breakfast Wisdom from a paper towl!?! What is the world coming to?

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August 17, 2007

Oh How I Love Random Conversation

Boy 1: Come on Meagan, let's go swimming

Me: I didn't bring a suit

Boy 2: That's ok, you can go in your underwear

Me: NO! I don't really like swimming, I'm scared of water

Boy 1: I have a degree in swimming, I will teach you how.

Boy 2: I'm a certified lifeguard

Boy 3 (outta nowhere): Yeah Meagan, it's like Allstate, you'll be in good hands!

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May 23, 2007

OOPS!

I am a complete dork! I set up my blogs to manually publish this week, becuase I knew I was going to be super busy at work. Silly thing is, I thought it was still March... ay ay ay! So I am fixing them all, to post today, and for the rest of the week. I am a natural blonde, just in case anyone was wondering!

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April 30, 2007

A Day of Silence - In Loving Memory!

One Day Blog Silence

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March 27, 2007

Vacation

I’m taking a vacation… well, not so much a vacation as an I-have-the-flu-and-can’t-get-out-of-bed break. My deepest apologies to all of you who come and visit me every day and read what I write, I appreciate you, and I am sorry to disappoint. I am going to take this week to get better and come up with a plethora of juicy stuff for you to read, so please come and check it out next week!

Hope everyone has a fantabulos week!!

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March 02, 2007

A Little Direction


So, I’ve been writing this blog for 2 weeks now. And I’ve loved it! But I think my content has been… well, a little flitty, for lack of a better word. While I’ve been searching for a little direction.

I am happy to announce – I’ve found one! So, here is the new introduction to my column:

Icon-o-clast-ic n. a person who attacks settled beliefs or institutions

Featuring themed columns ~

Monday’s: His & Hers

Men and women throughout the ages
Have had diverse points of view
Hers is this, His is that
Which one works for you?

Tuesday’s: Quotable Thoughts

I am going to take another geniuses musings, and comment on them

Wednesday’s: The Wonderful World of Dating

Travel into the dating life of a chronically single girl, searching for love, and learning some lessons along the way.

Thursday’s: Polly Ticks

Polly is will be making a guest appearance every Thursday as a reporter. She will be taking an interesting look at the happenings in the world today, and adding a bit of her own perspective.

Friday: Top 10

Start off the weekend with a snarky top 10 look at the love and life. This will give you great date ammo, for those awkward moments when you can’t think of something to talk about!

Sidenote: I love getting comments and feedback! Please feel free to leave me comments here, or e-mail me your thoughts at meagandixon@yahoo.com.

And, if you have something you’d like me to write about, I’m always open to suggestions!


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February 23, 2007

Real Men, What A Man Is Not, Point #5


Definition of a man: What a man is not

Point #5: The "X Factor"
A man would not bring up the "X Factor" inappropriately. A man would understand the danger of the "X Factor" and the appropriate time to discuss the graveyard of relationships past. A man would comprehend the need of a woman to listen, be helpful, and understanding; and that it's ok to discuss these things with one another, but in bed, during intimate moments and on dates, would not be the time to bring them up.
I am sure I could go on and on with pet-peeves of mine like not returning phone calls, not following through on what you say you're going to do, not making plans, and constantly changing your mind on what you want. But these traits can be contributed to bad manners, and may be more a sign of bad breeding rather than not being a man. Therefore, we will stick to these 5 points; they seem to be more universally and easily applied.

Disclaimer: This definition is a work in progress, much like the development of a man, and has changed and morphed since its original conception, I hope it continues to do so. Since the first declaration of manhood, I have met a couple of Peter Pan's whom are making a serious attempt at manhood, and I think they should be recognized and commended. So my caustic nature has been diminished, if only ever so slightly, and I now have a glimmer of hope at the possibility of someday finding a man. If anyone desires to prove me wrong, I am currently accepting applications, now hiring, one man.

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February 22, 2007

Real Men, What A Man Is Not, Point #4


Definition of a man: What a man is not

Point #4: Fear
A man is not someone who refuses to enter into a relationship simply because they are afraid of being hurt, unable to discuss emotion, scared of getting trapped, etc. Therefore, a man would understand their reservations and would choose to a) deal with them in a healthy way by analyzing their feelings and attempting to grow through communication and mutual understanding or b) simply not get into a relationship situation until they have chosen option a, which is a sign of acting responsibly.

Let me further explain what "not getting into a relationship situation" means. You do not kiss a woman, become intimate with a woman, or cross the friendship boundary line unless you want to be more than friends and are willing to deal with the responsibility that comes with that decision, or you have discussed the situation and reciprocate the idea of it being "friends with benefits" (this is a very dangerous situation to get into for both men (or Peter Pans) and women and should be entered into with extreme caution!) see Point #2

Tomorrow Point #5: The “X” Factor

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February 21, 2007

Real Men, What A Man Is Not, Point #3


Definition of a man: What a man is not

Point #3: Honesty
A man is not scared to tell you how he feels, good or bad. Hence, if a man likes you, he would not play games, run away, or act funny, he would simply state that he likes you and wait for your response. And if a man does not like you, he would not just stop returning your calls, continue to sleep with you until something better comes along, or sleep with you and other women at the same time, he would declare that he does not like you, give you a valid reason, and walk away.

WARNING: There are some Peter Pan's out there masquerading as men, who think by telling you one thing and doing another, they are fulfilling their obligation of communicating their feelings. Do not be fooled! So,

Point #3: Addendum
A man would not hide behind fake communication to pursue his own agenda. A man understands that actions speak louder than words. Therefore, they would never, for example, say they are not ready for a relationship and just want to be friends, and then kiss a woman. They would understand this is a mixed signal, and unfair. A man would think before he acts, and not allow sexual desire to overpower his inherent necessity to care for others and not hurt them. "This was not supposed to happen" is not an acceptable excuse for hasty actions for a man. See Point #4.

Tomorrow Point 4: Fear

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February 20, 2007

Real Men, What A Man is Not, Point #2


Definition of a man: What a man is not

Point #2: False Pretense
A man does not sleep with a woman under the pretense of love when all they want is sex. Thus it follows; a man would be honest and upfront with their intentions, feelings and emotions. Not taking advantage of a woman's inherent ability to associate sex with love and misleading a woman into thinking they cared for her because they are sleeping with her.

Friends with benefits is ok, if you have both decided it is just friends with benefits.

CAUTION: It is my experience that eventually someone will start to feel more than just friendship and sexual prowess, therefore, this situation should not be entered into unless there is a high level of communication and understanding between the two people (a.k.a. do not enter into this situation with a Peter Pan, it is a recipe for disaster!) And will usually end in someone, or both parties, getting hurt. My personal recommendation is hold out on the sex and wait until a real man comes along, but I know, that means you may be waiting a REALLY long time!

Tomorrow Point #3: Honesty

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February 19, 2007

Real Men, What A Man Is Not, Point #1


I was having a conversation one day when I offhandedly made a comment about not believing that men exist (I think they have gone the way of dinosaurs and dodo birds is close to my exact comment) when I was asked a thought-provoking question.

What is a man? For there must be a definition of what one is, to know they do not exist.

An interesting piece of logic, definitely worth considering, especially when brought to my attention by a member of the opposite sex. I honestly could not answer, and that is a rare occurrence! This question has since been plaguing my thoughts, what is a man? What does one have to do to become a man? How do men act, feel, think?

It is like asking someone what an enjoyable experience is, not everyone will agree to one answer. Some people may find a nice foot massage after a long day at work to be an enjoyable event, yet the thought of someone touching my feet gives me the heebie-jeebies. YUCK!

Anyway, back to men, after pouring over this conundrum for many an hour I have come to this conclusion: having not ever met a man, I do not know what one is. But I feel I can give convincing examples of what a man is not, therefore, this will be definition by process of elimination.

Let me digress for a moment and give rationalization to my logic, so as not to confuse anyone. Yes, I am aware there are humans walking around in the world that have male-type anatomy parts, whom we refer to as men. This is not exactly what I'm talking about. I am discussing more the relationship/commitment/love aspect of the human condition, as opposed to the anatomical one. The counterpart of a man is, of course, Peter Pan (you know, the 'I don't wanna grow up' syndrome).

That being said, let us return to the topic at hand.


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February 15, 2007

Free Beef?


I got my tires changed the other day.

I know this seems a mundane activity, but I don’t know anything about cars, so it was a tad stressful for me. It was like trying to buy shoes for someone else, I didn’t know what size, what style, or what tread would go best with my car. And the entire time I felt like a complete nim-rod because the men I was dealing with were treating me like an idiot. Hello, I have no idea what I’m doing, of course I’m an idiot!

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February 13, 2007

Iconoclastic


December 31st, 2005. It’s 11:00 pm on New Year’s Eve; and after sneaking into my best friends bedroom with the guy I’ve been seeing for the past 5 months, looking New Years fabulous, and hoping to pull off a festive quickie before hitting the bars, I’ve just been dumped!

A feeling of surreal this-kind-of-drama-only-happens-in-the-movies sensation has just passed over my alcohol warmed body. I boldly look at the man that, had circumstances been different, I very easily could have fallen in love with, and ask, “Can we just pretend we didn’t have that conversation?”

In a drunken, last ditch effort to not be alone I give him a great blow job and we have sex. Then we walk back to my place in the early morning hour drunken stagger that so effortlessly defined our dilapidated relationship and watch Ryan Seacrest bring in the New Year. Hell, I even got a kiss.

And as we slip out of our clothes and into each others arms for a night of deep drunken slumber and the synchronized sleep we often maneuvered together I thought to myself I must have changed his mind.

The morning brought more than just light into my hung over eyes; it also shed its harsh rays on my life. The hardest being when he climbed into my car, looked at me as he had so many times before, and asked, “So are we going to be friends, or are you going to hate me?”

Man it’s time to rethink my life!

Fast-forward to today, and not much has changed. I am now a 26 year old college grad with 3 million ideas of what she wants in life, and zero motivation to do any of it. I live in Chico, CA – a college town I was born in – and the only reason I’m still here is because I have a 15 year old brother I’m devoted too, and I can’t leave him. My degree in gender studies, and my ability to speak my mind with hard-biting fast wit, gives me the reputation of a hard-core feminist who doesn’t take nonsense from anyone. Unless, that is, I’m dating you, and then for some reason, it’s ok to treat me like crap, because apparently I’ve lost all respect for myself.

I guess the world of academia has enabled me to separate my mind from my body, a neat compartmentalization of my being. My dating behavior is a montage of bad decisions and hilarious mishaps that none of my friends believe could actually happen to me. It’s as if there are two people living my life. The Meagan who has intellectual conversations and hangs with her wonderful friends and the Meagan who dates… dun dun dunnnnn!

Iconoclastic is about trying to get these two people to meet. It’s my journey through life, love and relationships. The questions I’m faced with, the answers I find, and the road I traveled to find them. Because if I wasn’t me, who would I be?


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