I just heard the word "heteroflexible" for the first time. It's defined as "a primarily heterosexual person who's not opposed to occasional same-sex trysts when circumstances permit." Is this a new term? A hot word of the summer alongside "veepstakes" and "staycation?" Do you know anyone who's "heteroflexible?"
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The www.dating-weblog.com reports that this may be the up and coming way to take care of those provisional details you just don’t have time for anymore.
Lifestyle managers do exactly what their name implies: manage the details of your life. Essentially, this is a personal assistant for the home. You find someone that you like and can trust and then teach them how to take care of the things in your life that you just don’t have time to take care of. And yes, for some people that means online dating.
The www.dating-weblog.com reports that this may be the up and coming way to take care of those provisional details you just don’t have time for anymore.
Lifestyle managers do exactly what their name implies: manage the details of your life. Essentially, this is a personal assistant for the home. You find someone that you like and can trust and then teach them how to take care of the things in your life that you just don’t have time to take care of. And yes, for some people that means online dating.
Glamour.com published a recipe on how to make Engagement Chicken. The story all starts 22 years ago when an editor passed the recipe on to her assistant, who the made it for her boyfriend, and was engaged in less than a month. Wow! It must have been the chicken! The chicken has reportedly inspired weddings throughout the magazines history – and the women at Glamour were kind enough to share it with us.
Let us pretend, for a moment, that we have a mildly attractive, mid-twenties, single female, who is ever-so-unsuccessful in the relationship department, but is searching hopelessly for love. And she is introduced to an extremely attractive, early-thirties, single male, who is going through a divorce, but seems just about perfect in every other aspect, except for the fact that he's her boss's younger brother.
Then, let's just say, that an ardent friendship develops. They have fun together, and can talk easily with one another, and she thinks about him constantly (despite her better judgment), and convinces herself it would be ok to allow this to go just a little bit further. He is nice, and caring, and sweet, and if she let herself, she could easily fall in love with him. And things start to get serious.
If there is a red flag, then there must be a green flag as well. Right? The things that happen when you’re in the just-getting-to-know-you stages that feel right on. The things that make women wonder how he’ll get along with her family, and men wonder what she’ll look like it hot pink Victoria Secret. But even though we have never given the green flag a name until now, we have all been aware of its existence – hey, it’s usually the reason we enjoy the first, second and third kiss. It doesn’t need a ton of explanation.
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Amanda: Sex makes everything more complicated. Even not having it, because the not having it makes it complicated.
Graham: That’s why it’s better to have it… some say.
I mean, I don’t even have anyone to flirt with right now. And I know I’m going to regret asking for this when it comes – because it will, and when it rain’s – it will probably effing pour, but I think I need a little drama in my life.
You know, a little first kiss after a first date drama, or better yet, a little I like you and you like me so lets flirty flirty drama, or spend all night talking on the phone, or lying on the hood of the car staring at the stars (and catching West Nile), or drinking a good bottle of wine and learning intimate details of each others lives. Oh, I need a little drama. A little inspiration.
Have you ever needed a little drama in your life?
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn’t supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it’s harder every time. You’ll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You’ll fight with your best friend. You’ll blame a new love for things an old one did. You’ll cry because time is passing too fast, and you’ll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you’ve never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you’ll never get back.
Don’t be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin!
~ unknown
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“Las Vegas or Reno?” I asked him, hoping he would understand the idea was funny, not reality.
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“Truth,” one of the many American words consistently used out of context. People throw around the term without understanding what it means. We say, “The truth is…” when what we mean is “Here is my interpretation of what happened.” Fact or actuality is always based on the scrutiny of the person giving them. Reality is an opinion, and fidelity to an original translates into ‘what is easiest for me to accept?’ It is all about perception.
| You Communicate Like a Man |
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In my world I was the goddess of vengeance, looking for retribution for the injury done to my heart. And I was horrible to look at, bed head hair and tears dripping from my eyes. Without mercy, I wanted to punish him for the pain he had caused me.
She Thinks: What dose he mean by that? Interesting!?! Is that interesting in a I-want-to-get-to-know-you-because-I-think-you’re-great way? Or is it interesting is a where-is-the-nearest-exit-because-you’re-scary way? Buggers! Do I want to be interesting?
He Asks: Who are you?
She Thinks: Who knows, it’s not who am I, but who am I going to be today? I think I am a woman in today’s society who has figured out that to survive; I have to be many different things to many different people. The employee, the sister, the friend, the lover, and the person I only show to a few I can trust.
I usually love AskMen.com’s articles. They offer insight into the male mind that I may not otherwise get. But this article… well, I just don’t think it hits the mark.
Men have somehow finagled it so it is virtually impossible for women to get mad at them. Oh, and I can hear the men now, “Women get mad at us all the time.” And their right! But what happens when women express anger at men? I’ll tell you, they are called nags, or worse, and seen as uptight and unforgiving. And why are the uptight nags? Simply because a man did something that upset them.
“What do you want?” he asked me.
Four simple words, such a complicated question. Much like my answer, I want something so simple, and yet so complicated.
“I want to go to a concert and have warm arms wrapped around me. I want to lie on the chest of my lover and watch fireworks. I want to curl up next to him on the couch and watch a movie. I want to laugh. I want to cry. I want to hold hands, and smile, and annoy the people around me because I am so happy. I want to sit on the same side of a booth with someone on Sunday morning for breakfast and then lay in the park on a blanket for the rest of the day discussing life. I want to not always have to be the strong one, the caregiver, the mother. I want to be taken care of sometimes too. I want to not always be alone,” it all fell out of my soul faster than I could think, and I paused to take a deep breath.
“You have all of that with me babe.”
“Yes, but I want to be in love.”
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Hands are such and interesting instrument given for our use, and often taken advantage of. Hands are how many of us experience the world. We touch things – too see if they are safe, to transfer our emotions, to convey true inner feelings that can’t be expressed in words.
I think of a child, grabbing the hand of a trusted adult, asking for help without saying a word. Expressing a great need, a great fear, a great feeling of insecurity and helplessness. It is a child’s way of saying I trust you to lead me though this time, to guide me safely.
The same has to be true for adults. In this age, when sexual boundaries are a grey area the size of the Atlantic, when kissing someone on the first date is acceptable, and one night stands are understandable, I still have a hard time letting someone hold my hand unless I have true feelings for them.
Lately, I have become acutely aware of the wonders of the romantic comedy. Besides increasing my already engorged sense of patheticness in regards my complete lack of a love life (I think my guinea pig gets more action than I do, and he lives in a cage by himself), the phenomenon that is the romantic comedy has renewed my false sense of hope that maybe there will be a man out there who could sweep me off my feet.
A good friend of mine once told me that Meg Ryan was the anti-christ because she lulled women into a false sense of thinking. All of her roles are about a woman who suffers a little bit of pain with love lost, but catches prince charming in the end.
It’s quite possible prince charming is just a fairy tale.
And seriously, how dismal. Kissing is probably the most exhilarating and enjoyable activity you can partake in. What is better in life then a good snog with someone you are in like with?
So, my idea for a solution - a conclusion I got with some help from a brilliant male friend of mine – is this: if you have a significant other, and you are watching TV with one another, then during every commercial break, kiss. You don’t have to makeout, although that would be fun, just a kiss.
Just try it, you never know, it may improve your relationship, and if nothing else, you get some more mindless kissing!
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Well, an internet company has found the perfect solution:
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I was suddenly uncomfortable. As his lips brushed mine I felt his hand caressing my shoulder and moving down my back. I felt his fingers trace out every bit of cellulite and imperfection as they slowly crept down my spine, and I waited in anticipation, wondering when he would pull away in disgust. This had never happened with him before. I had never felt insecure about myself like this. The message, “You’re disgusting, you’re disgusting, YOU’RE DISGUSTING!” was playing over and over in my mind. Screaming at me surely.
It happened so fast, the transition from light of my life to creator of my darkness. How strange it is to think I may never again talk to the person who, just yesterday, was my raison d'être. Why is this the way it works? Why, when we break up, do we cut off communication with someone who is so very important to us? Or was, until that fateful moment.
I miss him. I find myself scrolling through my phonebook and stopping on his number. My willpower struggling with my heart, do I call? The answer is always the same. I stare at his name, which I have been unable to delete from my phone, wishing silently he would call. I struggle to close my phone, as opposed to hitting that little green button which would connect my cell to his, a pitiable attempt to connect his heart to mine.
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Women are told to keep a man you must not be needy (a.k.a. communicate your wants and desires), dramatic (a.k.a. set boundaries or stick up for yourself when being treated badly), or possessive (a.k.a. wanting definition of a relationship); in summary, you must not express emotion at all. Instead, we are expected to put forth and image of fun and excitement and unending happiness. This impassive façade - and a façade it is - allows women to escape the ever impending label of crazy girl, Drama Queen, or whichever other derogatory term men use to describe the women in their life. Women who simply know what they want, and how to ask for it.
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But. The most dreaded word in a relationship discourse, but. On the contrary, yet, except, unless, without the circumstance that, otherwise than, with the exception of, but. However, although, nevertheless, on the contrary, but. But.
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A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are ~unknown
They say that anger is just love disappointed.
They say that love is just a state of mind…
~Eagles
It's written about, it's sung about, we watch stories about it in movies, and dream about it at night, alone in bed. Love. A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person; a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection; sexual passion or desire. Love up, for love, in love, make love. Tenderness, fondness, predilection, warmth, passion, adoration. A deep and enduring emotional regard. It consumes so many conversations, and thoughts, and dreams.
It is this anticipation of the best possible outcome which sometimes permits otherwise reasonable single girls to make exceptions to their dating criterion, and embark on experiences with men who possibly border on substandard.
I told him what I wanted: convenient companionship – or better stated, companionship that was convenient. What dose that mean? It’s having someone to spend time with, and do things with, and be intimate with; without all the commitment and intensity that comes with “dating” and “relationships.” Hanging out when it’s opportune for both people and not getting bitter when one person has other plans. Allowing both people to have a life, and yet sharing that life when the need arises.