From outside the box

There are very strict rules to life and we all follow them diligently. These rules are etched so deep into our subconscious that it is literally unthinkable to break them. Often, we honor these rules to the death. The rules cannot be changed....until we decide to change them. We write these rules of life for our self when we declare something to be a fact. I can't loose weight, I'll always be broke, people take advantage of me, etc. When we think a self defeating negative thought, we may as well pull out a little book and write them down as a new rule we must live by. Rule #127, I am always tired....stay with the mantra long enough and you will be for sure! It works that way. The subconscious will always honor these rules by manifesting experiences that are within the guidelines of what it has been fed or programmed. It works the same way for positive thoughts. What we think, feel, and say, and to the degree of feeling and belief that we put into these things, will determine how our life must go. Our actions usually demonstrate what rules we have been writing for our self.

The experiences we have today are aligned perfectly to the rules we have laid out for ourselves before today, just as the rules we make for ourselves today will determine our experiences in the future. We are constantly tweaking our rules, either putting more of a negative slant or a positive slant to them. We can change any of our rules anytime we want to. When we change a rule from positive to negative, we do it unconsciously, it's easy. In order to change a negative rule into a positive rule, we must do it with pure intention, or total consciousness.

When we follow a set of negative rules, we get caught up in being a victim. Left unchecked, we may loose all control over our own life. Our experiences are then determined by forces and circumstances outside of our self. Victim's hate everything about their life, and yet, they seem to love being a victim. Have you ever tried to empower a victim? Have you ever tried to change their rules? They will fight you tooth and nail for their right to be powerless. They will argue why something may work for others but not for them. Offer them a different point of view, an alternative to what they are accustomed to thinking, and they immediately set you straight. There is an old saying that says, "Argue for your limitations and they are your's."

I once lived in the victim mode. It gave me chronic depression, killed my energy, and kept me from trying new things. I could never admit it when things were good, I could never say something like, "I love my life!"
The hardest part about giving up being a victim is that you have to take back your power and accept complete responsibility for all of the conditions of your life. You quit the blame game. It's fun as well as addicting to blame others, to judge others, and to constantly complain about all of the conditions of your life. However, once these habits are broken and your rules change from negative to positive ones, you literally get sick when you spend too much time dwelling on anything negative.

Changing your life starts with changing your rules. Just be aware when you are being too negative and if you can't change it, then at least quit feeding it. Often I catch myself writing a negative rule, sometimes I change it immediately and sometimes I don't. A negative thought does not etch a negative rule into the subconscious, it takes persistence. Like I've said before, in the end, we are all right where we want to be. Whatever our rules are, however much of a victim we are, however optimistic or pessimistic we are, however powerful we are, the fact is, we have worked very hard to be in that place, we have earned it, it's our right to be there.