From outside the box

This is a response to my last blog about being a Father. It comes from my sister Janice. It has such a great message that I decided to post it as a blog....

Your children are so blest! On Father's Day I think of all of the fathers who have just walked away, and out of the life, of their children. This is my experience. I have given birth to two, yes two, sons whose fathers just walked away! I was impregnated the first time as a single woman, in the 50s where an "unwed mother" either went into hiding or had an abortion in Tijuana. I went into hiding, gave birth, as I absolutely do not believe in abortion, and gave the child up for adoption. Just 1-1/2 years later, I married a much older man, never thinking he would impregnate me, who walked away again, after finding out I was pregnant after three months of marriage. His advice to me was get an abortion or get lost! Again, I chose life. It was difficult. Thank God for good parents who shouldered most of the responsibility . Luckily the adopted son is back in my life, and both of my sons have turned out to be very successful and responsible individuals who have both made this world a much better place. But every Father's Day, I cannot help but think of these two fathers, both long dead, if they ever gave even a thought to the whereabouts or what was happening to the children they fathered, on Father's Day. They did not deserve Father's Day. Both of my sons are exceptional people but I cannot help but think how much more they would have been with a loving caring father. So, all you young women out there, please think hard and long about whom you choose for partners, husbands, etc. those who possibly could father your children, if they would truly appreciate and accept the awesome and beautiful challenge of fatherhood. If you are one of those fathers likened to those mentioned above, do the greatest thing you can do on this earth, find your child and make contact, then you too can truly enjoy a happy Father's Day.

Posted by: Janice Murray | June