"Almost always, you have a choice as to what attitude to adopt. There is nothing in any normal work situation that dictates you must react one way or another. If you feel angry about something that happens, for instance, that's how you choose to feel. Nothing in the event itself makes it absolutely necessary for you to feel that way. It is your choice. And since you do have a choice, most of the time you'll be better off if you choose to react in a positive rather than a negative way."....from "The power of Attitude"
It seems that every time I face a challenging situation in my life, I have to struggle with all the negative feelings and emotions that attache themselves to it.....fear, anxiety, worry, stress, doubt, and sometimes anger. Then when I get through the situation, I look back and ask myself, "how would that situation have been any different if I had just allowed myself to go through it without any of those negative feelings?" Well for one thing, I can't imagine that it would have been any worse. And I always wonder if it would have actually been easier or resolved itself quicker if I faced it with a positive attitude.
Through out most of my life I have always thought that positive people either don't have the same problems as everybody else, or they suffer from what I have always called "The happy idiot syndrome". Happy idiots being people who lack awareness of the gravity of their situation. I'm sure there are plenty of these kinds of happy idiots around, I often wish I was one of them.
But then again, perhaps many, even most of these happy idiots are not idiots at all. Maybe they are people who have discovered something that I lacked the awareness to understand, that being positive is a choice that some make because it serves them better than being negative. So then I have to ask myself, "Why don't I make that choice the next time I'm dealing with a negative or depressing situation?"
When I think about it, if I am being completely honest with myself, I feel like most of my life is a negative or depressing situation. That's not to say there isn't more good than bad because there usually is, it's just that the bad always feels worse than the good feels good, therefore it gets most of my attention. So why don't I change that?
I remember a slogan that was popular back in the seventies...."Descend with conviction". What would happen if I took that a step further? What if I decided to...."Descend with joy?" But how do you do that when you feel like your world is crumbling around you? Well, if I had the answer, I could be one of those new age motivational speakers. But my instinct tells me it has something to do with "mindfulness", or being conscious of your thoughts and feelings, your state of mind. And for anything positive to happen, awareness must be followed by action. It takes a lot of energy to tackle a problem or any kind of emotional pain, but I think it takes even more energy to spend time worrying about it and stressing over it.
I like that Christian slogan that says "Let go and let God". You can interpret these words many ways. For me, I have always had this magic formula that seems to produce miracles in my life when I have the presence of consciousness to remember it and apply it....Be aware of what I'm feeling, let go of all of my attachments to that feeling (sometimes the best you can do is try to ignore them), and then roll my sleeves up and do something about it. Problem is, I usually forget about this until I have exhausted myself with worry and stress.
As the recession drags on and I see everything I have struggled my whole life to accumulate begin to disintegrate, I think it might be time to become the happy idiot. I'll keep you posted on how it's working.
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